6 Things We’ve Learned in Marriage So Far

Allie & Becca Calegari

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This June marks six months of marriage! (already!?!) It feels both like yesterday and a lifetime ago, sort of a difficult feeling to explain. We got married in Palm Springs and I have so many special memories of the day, from the picturesque mountain views and dramatic desert skies as a backdrop to the absolutely incredible (and potent) Allie 75s and Espresso Beccatinis that were served.

Still, it’s this moment right here that will always stay so vivid in my mind:

These photos were captured from our first look. We had a quiet moment after these were shot, just the two of us. Our eyes met and in that silent space, a million emotions swirled. Anticipation. Excitement. A lot of nervousness, probably. But most of all, a profound sense of “this is it.” We were embarking on a new chapter in our love story, hand-in-hand. Our decision to get married was more than just a piece of paper or a fancy ceremony; it was a commitment to face whatever adventures life threw our way, together. We didn’t know exactly what to expect, but we knew we were ready.

Here’s what we’ve learned in 6 months of marriage, on this incredible journey, so far:

♥︎ Being friends first is a superpower. We genuinely enjoy spending time together, from deep conversations to silly nights. This foundation of friendship lets us navigate situations that arise more easily, because at the end of the day, we know we have each other’s backs no matter what. Marriage feels like one big never ending sleepover.

♥︎ There’s light in dark times that you can find together. Marriage isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. We’ve faced challenges, crossroads where the path wasn’t always clear. But through it all, we’ve chosen each other. We’ve learned that trust is the key that unlocks the door to working through anything, together.

♥︎ Let each other be yourselves. One of the most beautiful things about marriage is the space it allows for us to be ourselves. We can be silly, passionate, introspective, whatever– without judgement. This freedom to express ourselves fully has helped us grow and bring out the best parts of ourselves not just individually, but as a couple.

♥︎ Difficult conversations are necessary. The hard talks aren’t something we necessarily look forward to, but we’ve learned their importance. We make an effort to truly hear each other’s perspectives, without shutting down or turning away. Open communication may not always be easy, but it’s the bridge that keeps us connected.

♥︎ Always move forward. It would be dishonest to say we don’t sometimes get frustrated with each other. Sometimes I really feel like we’re already bickering old ladies. It happens! But we’ve learned a valuable trick: to remember that the problem isn’t between us, it’s in front of us. Something we face and overcome together.

♥︎ Embrace the quirks. We all have them, those little things that make us unique (and maybe a little weird at times.) Instead of getting hung up on them, we’ve learned to embrace our quirks. We laugh them off, acknowledge them, and appreciate the way they add a touch of personality to our relationship instead of being hyper critical.

Marriage is an adventure, and these are just the first few chapters. We can’t wait to see what the rest holds, with all the laughter, the tears and the unexpected twists and turns.

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