Yes, brides can wear a tux, too.
I never imagined myself in a white dress, even before coming out. I actually never liked wearing dresses in general. I consider myself lucky in that regard, because for me, knowing what to wear for my wedding was an easier decision than it is for so many others.
For many LGBTQ+ women, it can be very difficult to surrender the dream they had as a little girl, or to let go of the attire their families wish to see them in on their wedding day. After all, most of us are conditioned as young girls to spend years picturing ourselves walking down the aisle, only to find those visions don’t reflect the reality of who we are. Society might whisper that a dress is the “right” option, but here’s the beautiful truth: It’s your wedding, your rules.
This is your chance to throw out the outdated playbook and embrace the look that makes your heart sing. Maybe a pantsuit screams power couple, a jumpsuit embodies effortless elegance, or a tailored tuxedo reflects your sharp style. Whatever it is, own it.
Here’s how to silence the doubts and find the confidence to choose the wedding attire that’s truly you:
♥︎ Reclaim your dream: Remember that little girl who dreamt of her wedding day? Was she limited by societal expectations? Reconnect with that free spirit and envision what truly makes you feel your most you.
♥︎ Ditch the pressure. Family expectations are powerful, but this is your celebration. Communicate openly and lovingly. Seeing your confidence will likely win them over.
♥︎ Embrace exploration. Don’t be afraid to step outside your comfort zone! (I mean, aren’t you sort of already doing that?) More and more places are starting to cater specifically to LGBTQ+ women with androgynous styles and custom-fitted garments. Explore the menswear sections and find a good tailor, if that’s your thing. Look at magazines, browse online stores, and my personal favorite– curate a Pinterest board filled with inspiration to guide you.
♥︎ Remember, there’s no “should.” There are no “shoulds” when it comes to your wedding attire. Read that again. I can’t emphasize enough to focus on what makes you feel confident and radiant. A ladies’ tux with men’s loafers, a men’s tux with high heels? It’s all up to you. You make the rules.
♥︎ Find your cheerleaders. Weddings can be emotionally overwhelming, so surround yourself with people who celebrate you for who you are. Your partner, friends and chosen family should be hyped about your unique wedding style. Let their support be your fuel.
TLDR? –This is your wedding, and it’s a celebration of your love story. Don’t let anyone dim your sparkle. Choose the attire that reflects your individual style and makes you feel like the most powerful version of yourself. Because when you walk down that aisle, radiating confidence as you walk towards the person you love most, that’s the most unforgettable image you can create.
A bride is still a bride in a suit.
A bride is still a bride without high heels.
A bride is still a bride without a long veil.
A bride is still a bride with no bouquet.
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